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It's been a long time I've wanted to make this post but lost for the right words to use to send home my heart intention.
Okay, we have been going on about how some of our men have been behaving, especially in relationships and taking life's responsibility, yet always forget that it's a foundation thing.
We wonder why our men act the way they do, but never stop to ask: were they raised or allowed to grow?
Raising takes a lot of guidance, direction, advise, chastising and counsels.
Growing doesn't need much work, just watch him and see he doesn't get into much trouble and we're good.
How many parents take the time to really talk to their sons during their growing years? How many really tell them how to treat women starting with their sisters, the neighbor's daughters, the girl at school and the girls in church?
Okay, we have been going on about how some of our men have been behaving, especially in relationships and taking life's responsibility, yet always forget that it's a foundation thing.
We wonder why our men act the way they do, but never stop to ask: were they raised or allowed to grow?
Raising takes a lot of guidance, direction, advise, chastising and counsels.
Growing doesn't need much work, just watch him and see he doesn't get into much trouble and we're good.
How many parents take the time to really talk to their sons during their growing years? How many really tell them how to treat women starting with their sisters, the neighbor's daughters, the girl at school and the girls in church?
How many parents take the time to live exemplary lives worth emulating by their sons, dads especially?
An apple never falls further from its tree, they said and that applies too.
Mommy, when did you last sit your son down and let him know he's a protector and provider? You think he's too small to understand? He understands anger, hurt and pain why do you feel he won't understand love, respect and adoration?
If a child retaliates when he's provoked, he's old enough to be taught forgiveness.
If a child withdraws when he's offended by someone, he's old enough to be taught endurance and patience.
Some of the virtues I hold today, started when I was younger, just as some of the vices I'm struggling to shed off.
A little: Son, help your sister lace up her shoes, help mommy do the dishes, help the nanny clean the table, goes a long way. It sure will register.
I used to have this sister whose brother does her laundry for, he never saw it as a biggie. The day I pried, he told me he's been doing it for her from when they were kids, and she just washes their undies. I was impressed.
My kid brother helps me with my laundry sometimes, though at a price (lol) and it makes me feel special.
When our sons know that it's okay to help out in the kitchen, laundry, dishes and even help when the ladies are dressing up with little decent things, it will be natural with them towards their wives. When he knows it's wrong to hit his sister or engage any girl in physical struggle, no matter the provocation, he will treat his wife same.
Mommy, the man you see today misbehaving probably didn't get the raising he needed.
As we raise our daughters to be ladylike, we should raise our boys to be men. When we let them grow, the result is what we find in our society today.
If we can raise our daughters to be self dependent, even as we train them to be women, same should go to our men:raise them to be self dependent and men.
The reason we have a lot of boys trapped in men's body isn't far from what was left off during their growing up.
This is a clarion call to mothers who still have the chance, and fathers who desire their daughters settled happily. We know sons have this affinity towards their mothers, fathers should take this time to work together with their wives for a better society.
The family is the smallest and closest unit of a society, it starts with you and I.
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